Words Don’t Teach...Experience Teaches
Updated: Feb 9, 2020
I love listening to books, consuming podcasts, reading blogs and getting coached. What I have learned is that I can consume all day, but unless I make actual changes in my life, the words are worthless.
Put the Book Down and Go To Work
Many times you hear or read something and you think of how you could apply that in your life. You're aware of a 1% change you could make. Unfortunately, it's so much easier to keep reading than putting the book down and getting to work.
Doing is totally a super power
Many times you tell yourself you're just not ready to make a change. Maybe things are a little hectic right now or after that big trip you will take a better look at your stress eating. Possibly you just don't have time to do it justice with your job and all. These are the thoughts that keep you from taking action, from doing what you've just learned.
Taking Action Often Looks like
Trying something before you feel all the way ready
Doing it even though you may fail
Taking the next best step, no matter how small
Getting something done in small installments
A hodgepodgey B- approach
Taking Action Rarely Looks Like
A home run
All the ducks in a row
Predictable and amazing
Why are you Paralyzed?
Because you don't want to mess up. You want the predictable home run. You want things to turn out amazing. You're used to delivering at a high level. That’s often why you can’t spring into action. If it’s going to turn out subpar, you make it mean something about you. You make it mean something about your worth. The thought somewhere down deep is, “If I do better, I am better.” Brene Brown calls this, “hustling for your worthiness.” Most of us have been people pleasing and hustling for our worthiness for decades.
Anytime I find myself unable to move forward, I just remind myself that my worth isn’t on the table today.
I tap into one of my go-to beliefs:
I am 100% worthy. Nothing I do changes that.
When I hustle, I’m not more valuable.
When I fail, I’m not less valuable.
My worth is absolute and non-negotiable.
My worth just isn’t on the table here.
Think of what you could do or try if it just wasn't about you? I like the question, “What would you try if you knew you wouldn’t fail.”
I love the question, “What would you try today if you knew you could fail and it was totally okay?”
Consume One, Do One
What if every time you read a chapter or listened to a podcast you shifted something in your life? You couldn’t consume anything new until you had made a small shift. How amazing would that be? Even something small, like writing out a practical plan for the day or organizing a drawer or connecting with a family member. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
My mantra is "B- is my jam and perfection is my enemy." I was valedictorian at my high school, so this has been a huge adjustment for me. Oddly enough, it's one of my most valuable. Anything I do that's less than stellar or slightly subpar, I have a mini-celebration. Another great thing about B- is that it's just above status quo (C). So the needle moves a little every time. Just enough, in fact. It's brilliant.